It might be embarrassing to admit that you have issues with premature ejaculation, so it’s okay if you’re reading this in secret. We’re about to tell you all you need to know and help you treat your condition.
We’ll start off by saying that premature ejaculation is highly treatable. What causes it? There are both physical and psychological factors in play. You’ll have to figure out which one applies to you the most. Once you have that down, you’ll be able to find ways to help yourself.
At the end of the day, you can always see a doctor if something bothers you too much. After all, this problem could affect your relationship, so ensure you’re open with your partner from the start. We’re sure they’ll understand.
What Is Premature Ejaculation?
This is something we’re all trying to avoid. However, sometimes it simply happens.
Premature ejaculation (or PE, for short) is basically ejaculating before you’ve had the time to do… well, anything. Suddenly, it’s all awkward, your sex life is in shambles, and your partner thinks there’s something wrong with you.
Still, it’s not all as bad as it seems. There are multiple causes to this issue, so it’s hardly your fault at all. Plus, did you know that you’re not alone? Studies show that one in three men as young as 18 suffer from this too. That should make you feel better because your bros are probably going through it too — they just might not want to say it.
That said, there are multiple ways for you to deal with premature ejaculation. You just need to know how to go about it.
The Causes of This Condition
There is more than one reason why this happens in general. Those reasons can be psychological or physiological.
Let’s say you’re in college now. There are so many things to stress about — balancing school, work, and social life is definitely one of them. Surprisingly, that can cause premature ejaculation too because it causes you stress.
You can also be hypersensitive, so having sex for even short periods of time can trigger a quick ejaculation. This can tie to a lack of experience. That’s nothing to be ashamed about. Some of us are just late bloomers. As you can see, sex does happen eventually, and no amount of masturbation can prepare you for the amount of sexual stimulation.
Not having a partner for a long time can sometimes feel like you’re back at square one. Your penis can become more sensitive, just like vaginas can get tighter with time. It’s a perfectly normal thing. So, as you can see, none of these causes are incurable. You just need to know which of those things is bothering you to be able to fix it properly.
The Effects of Coming Too Early
This is where it gets tricky because PE does have some side effects. Those effects rarely affect your physical health directly, but they can definitely cause some damage.
First and foremost, PE will affect your sex life and everything related to it. You might start being too stressed about your performance, and that can ruin sex every time you try. In turn, that can cause some problems with your partner. Next come issues with self-esteem and many other things.
Luckily, the issues with your partner can be easily resolved. All you need to do is talk to them openly, and they will for sure understand. There are many things that you both can do to fix this problem. Not only that, but now that they know what you’re dealing with, they’ll understand if it happens again.
This means that you can still have a healthy sex life. Premature ejaculation may come and go if it’s stress-related. So, you both shouldn’t be surprised if you have good and bad periods. Still, being honest with your partner is always the best policy. They’ll be able to support you to the best of their ability, and you’ll get through this together.
Possible Treatments and Cures
Treating premature ejaculation is easier than you might think. It just requires some time and patience.
Firstly, we always recommend psychological therapy. Seeing a therapist and talking it all out might be exactly what you need. Stress and worries can cause PE, and so can many other similar factors, so it wouldn’t be right not to mention this type of treatment. If you don’t think this will work, there are other things for you to try.
For example, you could try regaining control. It’s basically practicing delaying ejaculation as much as you can before you’re certain you can last longer. How can you do this? There are several methods. However, they all revolve around stimulation until just before the climax and then stopping.
We know this might sound like torture, but you only need to do this three times before letting yourself ejaculate on the fourth. Repeat this method as much as you can until you feel like you have more control. It shouldn’t be too long until you start feeling like you can last much longer.
Practice makes perfect, or in this case, it allows you and your partner to have fun for a bit longer than usual.
No matter what age you are, premature ejaculation can happen to just about anyone. There are multiple underlying conditions that can cause it. Those can be either physical or mental. However, there’s good news — it’s treatable.
There are multiple things you can do about your condition, ranging from psychotherapy to practicing regaining control. There’s bound to be something that will help you out.
If all else fails, you can always pay a visit to your doctor. They’ll be able to help you in the best way possible. Maybe you require some medication, or something else might be going on, something that you can’t find out on your own. Whatever it is, they can figure it out and help you last longer than 60 seconds.