Things to Consider Before Buying a Sex Toy

If you want to get yourself a new sex companion but are unsure how to go about it, don’t worry; we’re here to help! 

There’s a toy just about for anybody. Whatever your needs or level of experience might be, we’ll help you find something for you! Adult sex toys are excellent for both beginners and those who want to spice things up between the sheets. There are many options out there, and most of them, you can use and carry anywhere. We should all be thankful that don’t need to try some vintage sex toys, because trust me, you don’t want to know how they work. But how do you choose the right toy to enhance your sex life?

Here’s all you need to know about how to pick a safe sex toy!

Check What They’re Made Of

We know intimate products come in a variety of materials. Some are fancy and some very cheap-looking. But let’s go through some basics and find out which materials to avoid. 

You’ll most likely have to choose between two types of materials — porous and non-porous. But first and foremost, what does porous even mean? It means the material has pores that trap bacteria after each use. Yes, cleaning your toy after each use is a must, but these types of toys can’t be cleaned adequately. At least not as thoroughly as you’d like. 

Porous materials include PVC, TPR, rubber, latex, jelly that are usually used in sex toys for beginners. You’ll notice that most cheap toys are made of these materials. They’re also cheap-looking. For example, TPR is a type of rubber manufacturers use to make “realistic” looking or feeling sex toys. However, a single glance at them will show you that’s not the case.

On the other hand, non-porous materials are entirely safe for you and easy to thoroughly disinfect. These include pure silicone, ceramic sex toys, wood, stone, ABS hard plastic, metal, and glass. When it comes to choosing a wood or ceramic toy, make sure you go for lab-tested ones. Because no — a wood sex toy won’t give you splinters, but it can have a poorly-made finish. 

I think our material of choice is perfectly clear! However, if you have to settle for porous sex toys, you can always use a condom with them to make sure you remain perfectly safe.

Know Your Needs and Read the Product Descriptions

Now that you know how to pick a sex toy based on its material, let’s talk about other options. Selecting a sex toy is no rocket science, but you do have to know what you want. 

Saying the world of sex toys is vast would be an understatement. There are dildos, vibrators, anal toys, etc., and they each have their own variations too. Needless to say, there’s a lot of fish in this sea. So focus on what you want. Maybe that’s clitoral stimulation, anal, or vaginal penetration. Whatever it is you desire, we promise there’s a toy for you! 

If you’re buying your first sex toy, don’t go crazy about it. Bigger isn’t always better, and more settings aren’t always superior either. And yes, it doesn’t matter how much sex-perience you have — this applies to both newbies and veterans alike.

However, pay attention to your desired sex toy’s features. If you don’t live alone and don’t want your housemates to know what’s up, opt for silent toys. They’re not absolutely silent, but they still won’t buzz like you have a swarm of bees in your room. And if you prefer to have fun in the bath or shower, go for waterproof toys.

If you are a guy and you have been wanting to try chastity devices, make sure to carefully read tips for cock cages and product guides to make sure you know what you are getting yourself into.

Learn More About the Design

Let’s move onto design! Some sex toys will have you wondering which part goes into where, but don’t worry. Again, you have many options, but the choice is not so hard to make, especially that innovation of sex toys have been so rapid, you will surely find one that matches your kink.

Once again, think about what you want. Maybe you’d like a realistic-looking dick-shaped toy. Whether it is because you like the look or the feel, it doesn’t matter. You know… with veins popping, balls included, all that jazz. Or maybe you want something small and discreet you can take anywhere with you (or even use if you’re that adventurous). But remember to always refer back to materials and remember that realistic-looking doesn’t always entail quality! 

Practicing safety measures, though, will keep you safe enough to enjoy your playtime, no matter which toy you choose. Also, picking a design should correspond to your needs. Thus, reading the product description is always useful. After all, it can give you info on the toy straight from the manufacturer. So read your worries away!

Use the Right Type of Lubricant

Everyone likely knows this rule of thumb, but let us remind you that going in dry is a no-go. Your partner doesn’t go in with a dry penis or fingers, so neither should you with your toy.

We don’t want to talk about scary things like pain and discomfort, so let’s talk about how to avoid that. Thankfully, there are specially made lubricants for sex toys. The most commonly used ones are silicone and water-based. Silicone lubricant lasts longer and is water-resistant, so it’s useful for, let’s say, playing in a bath. However, it’s not safe to use with silicone toys, as well as jelly or rubber toys. 

Water-based lubricants, however, are perfectly safe to use with your gadgets and are incredibly easy to wash afterward. Oh, and yeah. Wash your toys after each use — with soapy water or a sex-toy cleaner… Just do it.


These are some of the things you can always keep in mind while picking a sex toy. All in all, your toy doesn’t need to be fancy or flashy because its goal is to help you reach an orgasm — nothing else. So whether you want to experiment, try something new, or help yourself discover your body, there’s a toy for you out there! Some are even discreet enough that you can wear (and use) them in public. But those are for people more comfortable with experimentation!

Most importantly, take good care of your toy, so that it can continue to take good care of you. After all, we’re sure nobody wants to have to deal with any complications due to poor hygiene!